Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Writer Wednesday - Jaime C. Randle

I think I've mentioned more than once on here that for being a rather normal suburban public school, Mahopac High School produced a number of really interesting and talented people. Another one of those people is Jaime C. Randle of Bonjour Señor, a perfect little travelblogue that captures Jaime's adventures in Europe. She's living in Paris and living a life of love, adventure, and from the looks of it, amazing food. (She also runs the Paris Brunch Club. I don't know when I'll be in Paris next, but I cannot wait to stop by her flat when I do!) Her photography is just gorgeous, and her writing really augments the images without overtaking them at all. I hope you'll hop on over there after reading her interview!

Jaime C. Randle - Crandleberries - Bonjour Senor

Who are you? I am Jaime C. Randle, often referred to as Crandleberries by friends or Baby by both my mom and fiancé :) I am happy, healthy, continuously grateful for my life and experiences, spontaneous, loving, generous, feisty, caring, thoughtful, a joker, goofy, a soccer player and a lover of food and cooking.

I was born in Jamaica and raised in New York (both the city and suburbs). My parents moved to Connecticut just before my senior year of high school; this sounds like any teenager's nightmare, but I have always been outgoing, adventurous and adaptable, so it didn't bother me much. After university, I moved to The Netherlands for a year, came back to New York, traveled, landed a job I hated, met the love of my life, landed a job I loved, agreed (ecstatically) to marry the love of my life and decided to move to Paris.

Where can you be found online? Do you have a blog or other online receptacle for your work? If so, how would you describe it to a stranger you've just met while on vacation? I can be found on my online photo diary, "Bonjour Señor." Bonjour Señor captures whatever I want and whatever I find beautiful, interesting, inspiring or delicious. I can also be found at Paris Brunch Club which is my website for the brunch club I recently started in Paris (you're welcome for the clarification).

What inspired you to start writing/blogging? When did it happen?
I have always loved to write, so when the internet became a thing, it gave me another place to express myself outside of diaries and school assignments. I've written blogs before and abandoned them, but I felt it important to hop back on the mouse once we moved to Paris and once I realized that I was growing increasingly forgetful. Bonjour Señor serves as a sharing tool for friends and family and an archive of my thoughts and experiences for me (and one day for our children). The photo diary also forces me to keep my eyes wide open to the world--rather than buried deep in my iPhone--because I am always looking for the next subject to shoot.

Why do you write? To be fair, I don't write as much as I have in the past or as much as I would like to now; most of my posts are photo-heavy with a short commentary at the end. I have promised myself that I will write more, though, because it affords me both preservation and growth. Writing preserves my thoughts, feelings, motivations and experiences at a particular moment in time while also fostering and encouraging growth as I recognize the ways in which I can learn from those thoughts, feelings, motivations and experiences.

Your writing inspires me. Who inspires you? Currently, the people that inspire me most are chefs at my favorite restaurants and fantastic home cooks. Cooking is the art that resonates most with me and it resounds deep in my heart and soul. The transformative nature of raw ingredients to a palate-pleasing, brain-tingling, heart-warming dish excites me like nothing else. My current obsession:

In keeping with the admittedly loose travel theme of Not Intent On Arriving, if you could have an all-expenses paid trip anywhere in the world, where would you go? South America (all of it) is currently high on my list. It is the only continent besides Antarctica (I'd like to go there, too) where I haven't been. That isn't the reason I want to go, though. As someone from the Caribbean, I feel a certain connection to Hispanic cultures and I am excited to eat all of their food, meet all of their people, dance to all of their music, learn more about all of their history and soak up all of their sun

What is your favorite place on earth? "My favorite thing is to go where I've never been" -Diane Arbus

Monday, November 24, 2014

Weekend Wanderings - Friendsgiving 2014

This was a lovely, stress-free(ish) weekend! We hosted Friendsgiving on Saturday, which was lovely, though as always with these big parties, I didn't get to talk to anyone for as long as I would have liked. So, if you were at Friendsgiving, let's get coffee soon so we can actually chat! 

I also didn't take a single picture after this one, so if you have any that you took, please share them with me. I especially love this one from Roger's coworker, Amanda:

Yesterday we had a very relaxing morning. (Seriously, I spent almost the entirety of it in bed watching American Horror Story.)

Molly came over for a brunch of leftovers, and I made her and Roger take a photo in front of our apartment:

And then Roger and I headed over to meet Shaelyn at the Morbid Anatomy Museum. I've been meaning to go since it opened, and they were having an open house today, so it was the perfect time for a visit. I really loved it, and will definitely be back on a less crowded day to spend a little more time there and really look over the exhibit.

Afterward, we all headed to the Bahche for drinks before calling it a weekend.

Friday, November 21, 2014

{This Moment}

A Friday ritual inspired by Amanda Soule & many others.
Please feel free to share a link to your own moment in the comments.

Recap of this week on Not Intent On Arriving:
  • Writer Wednesday was Callie Gold, an Israeli romance novelist!
  • And yesterday I wrote a very brief fashion analysis of the 2008 Vice-Presidential Debate (also known as that time I had the same dress as Willow Palin.)
Writing Elsewhere:
  • Not much this week, but I have done a few Late Night Conversation posts that I don't think I've mentioned here yet. 
I hope you have a lovely weekend! We're having our annual Friendsgiving potluck tomorrow, so I'll be roasting a turkey, baking up some corn pudding, and seeing lots of friends from all around the city and beyond!

Thursday, November 20, 2014

The United States 2008 Vice-Presidential Debate - A Fashion Analysis

Just kidding. Basically all I have to say about this is that one time I owned the same dress as one of Sarah Palin's daughters. No, not the pregnant one. The other one, Willow. What did it feel like? It felt like, wow, celebrities are just like us because we all shop at H&M sometimes. It also felt like, wow, that time Joe Biden teared up was really emotionally moving for me. (This was a year of emotional moments from male politicians. I remember watching Rahm Emanuel's commencement speech and choking up a bit when he said not to be reckless with the lives we'd been given.) Mostly I was just surprised that a candidate's family would wear something from H&M and not, say have something specifically made for them.

Now my friend Maura owns it.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Writer Wednesday - Callie Gold

As you probably know, one of my first books was actually a sex guide, so I'm very excited to be featuring Callie Gold, romance writer extraordinaire. Callie is an Israeli writer, a lawyer, a mediator, a wife and mom. She says, "I can be a bitch, remnants from my litigation years, but most of the time I’m harmless. I married the best man on this planet. I swear. and our kids are our pride and joy. Sometimes I stare at them with amazement." She writes out of an avid need and reads all of the time. Callie loves mysteries, erotica, and anything that's foreign, different, dark. Her most recent book is Ash's Fire.

Callie Gold

Who are you? I’m Callie Gold, an Israeli wife, mother, divorce mediator, attorney, marriage counselor and relationship coach. My clients are anywhere from young couples with relationship issues, through married couples going through a crisis and up to people who want to divorce. I love them all, and I thank my lucky stars that put me in a position to help people with their relationship. I love to bake bread and my nose is always stuck in a book (well, kindle, those pesky reading glasses...)

Where can you be found online? My website and blog, Callie's World are online at I blogged for a long while about relationships (alas, in Hebrew) and my book, about how to succeed in marriage, was published in Israel in early 2014 -Yay!

I recently finished my first novel in English, it’s called Ash’s Fire and it is an erotic mystery novel. You can purchase it on Amazon, or learn more about it on GoodReads.

So here’s the hot tub talk: My novel is about consuming desire, addictive love, grave suspicions, friendship, loyalty, and the hardships of modern monogamy. And it’s got a ton of sex. Here’s a bit about the story:

Jordan Cohen, is an Israeli woman in her forties, she’s awesome and still hot (I love that woman!). She’s a successful litigator and she’s married to Sam, her best friend, a criminal defense lawyer and her partner in their Tel Aviv firm.

When Sam invokes their old pact that allows them to have affairs, she’s afraid, but she agrees; Sam’s no cheat, and the pact was her idea. But does she want a hot fling of her own? You bet!

She meets the gorgeous Ari Ash, an ex-Israeli, New York-based concert pianist. Ari is tall-dark-and-delicious, and those hands… And his sex games are mind-bending…

Completely unexpectedly (or is it?), Ari becomes her client in a civil suit, and later, a suspect in a grisly, execution-style murder. A terrified Jordan trusts one criminalist with her lover’s life – her husband.

She sticks by her lover as the police investigate, but her loyalty is tested when she discovers one troubling fact after another. Ari has killed before… Jordan is torn. Is her lover a killer? And by now, she has fallen in love with him, hopelessly and completely.

Jordan’s affair becomes known to a cunning Detective who, for his own reasons, threatens her with exposure, and the ruin of her and Sam’s reputation (sleeping with your client who’s a murder suspect? Really?). Imagine the shame…

Jordan needs to save her lover, her husband’s reputation, her marriage, herself. So this is my teaser, and now you have to go, no, run to the book store.

My inspiration: I started writing my novel a little over a year ago, when I realized that I’ve accumulated sex scenes, and that there’s s story in there, somewhere. I didn’t want the usual no-real-plot kind of erotica book (a hot little, barely-legal female meets a troubled zillionaire and they go at it) (Man, do I have to start critiquing, nay, slashing these books). No. I wanted a real story, with lots of twists and turns, populated with real people. Because I love thrillers, I knew what I had to do.

Miraculously, I met this brilliant writer/content editor and he took a look and immediately asked to be appointed midwife of my novel (his word, not mine). That’s when I sat in front of my computer, and spilled. Amazingly, it was that simple. I’m still reeling from how fast the whole thing happened.

Why do you write? Because I can’t not write. I’ve been writing all my life. If I didn’t write, I would most likely explode and my husband would have to repaint the kitchen.

Who inspires you? Real people inspire me. When they say something that touches my heart, when their eyes light up, when they go through crisis and show courage. I will always want to write about that.

Where would you go? Anywhere.

What is your favorite place on earth? Any place that’s new, where everything is possible, every person is fascinating and lovable, and life is filled with possibilities.

Anything else you'd like us to know? Jordan and Sam and Ari will reappear in the second book of my planned trilogy, and they will continue to break the rules. They will have lots of sex even though they are real adults, not 21-year-olds (imagine that…). They will have more sex outside their marriage. They will live in a new monogamy that needs to be reinvented constantly. And Jordan and Sam will have to tackle more crime. At the end of the trilogy Jordan and Sam might invite Ari to move in with them… Who knows what will happen, right?